Event Recap — ‘Practicing for Life’ Event #3 on Being ‘Enough’

Hi all!

 

Just wanted to post a recap for any of y’all who weren’t able to attend the event on Friday.

We started out with a check-in about in what areas of our life we felt we were ‘not enough’. We followed that up with a reading from Brene Brown’s book Daring Greatly on scarcity mentality and feeling like we will never be enough. After the reading, here are some questions we discussed:
What makes us feel like we are not enough?
 
Can feeling ‘not enough’ ever be motivating, or is it only damaging?
 
How does the act of deciding which activities to engage in set us up for feeling like certain activities will leave us feeling like we are enough?
 
What are some practical ways to begin from a place of feeling like we are enough?
 
Some important takeaways included that we can use healthy competition, not scarcity mentality, to improve ourselves while still feeling like we are enough. If you would like a PDF of the reading, please reach out to Lucas at blawrenc@stanford.edu for a scanned copy.
Please come through for our last event next Friday, 3.10 at 4 PM to talk about Brene Brown’s book Rising Strong.
 
If you have any questions, concerns or feedback, please email Lucas at blawrenc@stanford.edu.

Femtastic Friday: Week 7

Happy Friday!

It’s Parents’ Weekend! If your parents are here, have a restorative time with them. If not, take some time to call home or friends from home to reconnect.

What’s New in the WCC

The Feminist Voices Podcast

Curated by Mysia Anderson and Nya Hughes

Listen Here!

The Ambassador Program’s

“Practicing for Life: A Series on Ordinary Courage” Discussion Series

[IN 15 MINUTES] Daring Greatly: Taking Risks and Making Mistakes 2/24 at 4 pm

Rising Strong: Practicing Ordinary Courage 3/10 at 4 pm

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We welcome people of all genders, identities and backgrounds!

Upcoming Events

Navigating Non-Profit Careers

Monday, Feb 27th 12:30-1:30 PM

@ The WCC (1st floor of the Firetruck House)

Lunch will be provided!

RSVP Link: https://www.facebook.com/events/587908504735924/

Panel Discussion and Q&A with Senator Wendy Davis

Tuesday, Feb 28th 8-9:30 PM

@ CEMEX Auditorium

RSVP REQUIRED

Week 8 is Wellness Week, and the WCC is hosting a wellness event!

Self Care Night

Saturday, Mar 4th 8-10PM

@ the WCC

Interesting Reads and Other News

Merriam-Webster tweets about the definition of feminism

Have a great weekend!!

Femtastic Friday: Week 6

Happy Friday! Congratulations on making it through Week 6! You are strong, you are valued, you are important.

What’s New in the WCC

The Feminist Voices Podcast

Curated by Mysia Anderson and Nya Hughes

Recording with Three Unicorns coming soon!

Listen Here

The Ambassador Program’s

“Practicing for Life: A Series on Ordinary Courage” Discussion Series

Daring Greatly: Taking Risks and Making Mistakes 2/24 at 4 pm

Rising Strong: Practicing Ordinary Courage 3/10 at 4 pm

We welcome people of all genders, identities and backgrounds!

Upcoming Events

Navigating Nonprofit careers

Monday February 27th, 12:30pm

Stay tuned for more details coming soon!

Interesting Reads and Other News

Consider what enjoyment might mean in a time where political engagement is more important than ever in this article by The Guardian.

Want to get to know feminism better? Here’s a place to start thinking.

Bridging Medicine & Social Impact

We truly enjoyed hosting Joi Jackson-Morgan, the Deputy Director at the 3rd Street Youth Center and Clinic, and Dr. Maya Adam, a former professional ballerina who is now is a pediatrician at Stanford University School of Medicine and the founder of the non-profit Just Cook For Kids, for our latest Women at Work event, Bridging Medicine and Social Impact.

Here are some key takeaways from the event.

Unexpected events can open new doors

Our panelists described how events in their lives shaped and helped determine their careers today. Joi described the car accident that forced her to give up her dream of medical school at the time, which led to her to apply for a research position at a youth clinic, 3rd Street, in her own community. Today she is the executive director at 3rd Street. Dr. Adam described how one of her children got very sick a few years ago. She realized how her family had to change their lifestyle and the way they ate. This in turn was a source of inspiration for founding the non-profit Just Cook For Kids. Both Joi and Dr. Adam are still dreaming: Joi hopes to one day become a pediatrician; Dr. Adam is traveling for work and finding new experiences everywhere.

Finding the passion for a project is key

One of the points the panelists highlighted was the importance of finding social impact projects that truly motivated them. When looking at the community 3rd Street Youth Center and Clinic served, Joi saw a need for teens to engage each other in health topics. Motivated by this, Joi looked for ways to help, including creating a peer health educators program at her youth clinic to encourage youth engagement and awareness. Dr. Adam further elaborated upon this as she said, “find a community/cause you really care about and find out what you can do realistically to move a need from A to B.” Her passion for nutrition has spawned numerous projects, including online courses and a mobile app.

Focusing on the goal

Dr. Adam and Joi both emphasized the importance of determination and staying focused on the “big picture” that their jobs entailed. For example, Dr. Adam described how she often worried people would judge her for “oversimplifying” concepts while teaching, but ultimately justified it knowing that she valued good teaching above all else. Joi realized through her job that it was more effective and valuable to build programs that actually helped her community, rather than “chasing money.” As she said, “[There’s a] fearlessness knowing you’re the doing the right thing and doing it for the people you’re serving.”

 

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Femtastic Friday: Week 5

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Happy Friday! We hope you’ve been taking care of yourselves during this rainy week!

What’s New in the WCC

The Ambassador Program’s

“Practicing for Life: A Series on Ordinary Courage” Discussion Series

Daring Greatly: Taking Risks and Making Mistakes 2/24 at 4 pm

Rising Strong: Practicing Ordinary Courage 3/10 at 4 pm

We welcome people of all genders, identities and backgrounds!

Upcoming Events

Impact on Campus

Self defense workshop with Impact Bay Area

Monday, February 13th

4:30-6 PM

Women’s Community Center

Bridging Medicine + Social Impact

Monday, February 13th

12:30-1:30 PM

Women’s Community Center

*Lunch included!

Microaggressions

Monday, February 13th

El Centro Chicano y Latino

Academic Skills Session

Tuesday, February 14th

12:30-1:30 PM

Women’s Community Center

*Lunch included

Feminist Discussion Nights

Every Sunday night!

8-10 PM

Women’s Community Center

Interesting Reads and Other News

Check out an article from The New Yorker titled “The Case Against Contemporary Feminism” that talks about Jessa Crispin, “who believes that the push to make feminism universally palatable has negated the meaning of the ideology writ large” and her new book “Why I Am Not A Feminist”

Looking for a new (or updated) view on feminism? Check out the Transfeminist Manifesto!

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The Art of Negotiation Workshop

It was wonderful having the founder of MissCEO and Stanford University alumna, Nita Kaushal, at the WCC for our “Art of Negotiation” event! This is the second year that the Women at Work program has hosted this type of workshop.

With her experience founding an organization that empowers young women to develop their leadership skills, Nita offered valuable insight into how to approach negotiating salaries. Here are some of the key takeaways from the event:

 

Don’t be afraid to ask.

Negotiating is all about asking, and asking takes courage. However, Nita emphasized that companies will not take away an offer simply because you asked for more–after all, they put in the effort to decide they wanted to work with you when they extended an offer.

Overthinking can be a large reason why we are afraid to ask, often leading to fears of rejection, overvaluing yourself, or spoiling the relationship. It’s important to understand that we can ease our anxiety about negotiation realizing that the worst thing that can happen is that the company says no, they won’t give you the higher salary.  

Know your worth.

It’s also important to know your own worth, both because it gives you the confidence to ask for more and because it gives your leverage with the company. Don’t give away all your power by eagerly saying “Yes!” to the first offer they make. You have the power to negotiate, no matter how tantalizing their first offer may be! You can determine your market value from a number of factors, including:

  • Current salary
  • Years of experience (INCLUDING academics)
  • Market value of your expertise and knowledge
  • Outstanding offers
  • Salary ranges for similar positions (generic)
  • How invaluable or difficult to replace you are

Utilize your leverage appropriately and professionally! However, remember that negotiating your worth is a continuous process throughout your career. Negotiating your entry salary is just the beginning–you need to be on and ready to ask for what you want all the time. Keep asking and keep putting yourself in a power position for the rest of your career.

Do your homework.

Before going into the salary negotiation, make sure to do your homework. Look up similar job openings online to get a sense of salary ranges. Nita recommends looking at Paysa, Glassdoor, LinkedIn, and Quora, among other options. Offline, you can reach out to folks in your network including other recruiters and hiring managers, and former interns in your industry.

During the interview try to get a sense of the following, all of which may help influence your decision to join or not to join the company:

  • Type of employer/budget
  • Candidate pool
  • Position requirements (education, experience, etc)
  • Potential for promotion
  • Employer’s need

Avoid presenting numbers first.

When it comes time for the Desired Salary Discussion, avoid being the one to present salary numbers first. If pressured, respond with something similar to the following:

“I’m sure you’ll make a fair offer.”

“I want to ensure this opportunity is the right fit before discussing the numbers, which I’m sure will work out well for the both of us.”

If forced, aim high.

Negotiate with the Right Party

When having the salary discussion, talk about the offer directly with the decision maker. This isn’t always the recruiter. Often, the hiring manager for the team will have more room to negotiate, which can work in your favor!

Practice phrasing.

Lastly, one of the most important parts of negotiating is to phrase things positively, professionally, and in an “I win/you win” manner. For example, if you get an offer- that means they REALLY want you! Don’t accept the offer right away when they present it to you. Instead say:

“Thank you, I’m so pleased to have an offer, especially since I admire [something about the company] so much… I’ll just need some time to consider the details. I’m evaluating some other options and want to make sure I make the best decision. Can I get back to you by [date]?”

This format is great, since it respects the recruiter or hiring manager’s time while not giving away your cards.

Some other examples of phrasing are below:

“I have an equivalent offer from another company, but as we discussed, it seems as though I would make a great fit here. Are you able to do any better to simplify this decision for me?”

“I’m excited for the offer, but company B is offering me $X- I don’t want to get you guys into a bidding war, but I love the team/ environment/ opportunity here and would really prefer to work for you, so if you can match, I’ll be glad to accept.”

Don’t forget to practice phrasing! Ask your friends to help you stage scenarios for your to practice your negotiation skills.

How to Close

Accept the counter if it feels right! Make sure to utilize your leverage appropriately and professionally at all times.

Sometimes, the offer won’t work out. In those cases, Nita recommends thanking the recruiter and hiring manager and closing with the following:

“I appreciate what you were able to do, it seems that Company A is a better career move for me at this point – I apologize, thank you for the opportunity, and maybe, I’ll work with you sometime in the future.”

 

Keeping all of these recommendations in mind, we hope that you feel more confident about negotiating your way towards the best possible offer. Happy negotiating!

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Femtastic Friday: Week 4

Happy Friday! Congratulations on making it to the end of Week 4!

What’s New in the WCC

The Feminist Voices Podcast

Curated by Mysia Anderson and Nya Hughes

Episode 1 | featuring A-lan Holt

Listen Here

The Ambassador Program’s

“Practicing for Life: A Series on Ordinary Courage” Discussion Series

I Thought it Was Just Me (But it Isn’t): Shame Resilience 2/10 at 4 pm

Daring Greatly: Taking Risks and Making Mistakes 2/24 at 4 pm

Rising Strong: Practicing Ordinary Courage 3/10 at 4 pm

We welcome people of all genders, identities and backgrounds!

Upcoming Events

People’s State of the Union: Story Circle Workshop

Friday, February 3rd

4:00-6:00 pm

Women’s Community Center

Apply to the Advancing Gender Equity Fellowship

Information about the fellowship is available online at bit.ly/GenderEquityFellowship.

Applications are due Tuesday, February 7, 2017 at 11:59pm.

We welcome those of all genders, identities, and backgrounds to apply!

American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus

Friday, February 3rd

4:00-5:00 pm

Florence Moore Main Lounge

Stanford Women in Business Shark Tank Challenge

Tuesday, February 7th

6:30 to 7:30 PM

Women’s Community Center

RSVP at www.tinyurl.com/SWIB-STC

Art of Negotiation

Wednesday, February 8th

5:30 pm

Women’s Community Center

Food is provided!

https://wcc.stanford.edu/events/art-negotiation-0

Interesting Reads and Other News

Help cheer Stanford Women’s Basketball to victory this Friday and get Coach VanDerveer to 1000 career wins this Friday, Feb. 3 vs. USC at 6 PM at Maples Pavilion! There are only three coaches in basketball history (men’s and women’s) to achieve this milestone. Join in the celebration! You can read more about this historic moment here.

People took to social media in response to President’s Trump comments about women needing to “dress like women.” Check out how people showed what #DressLikeAWoman really means.

Event Recap: ‘Practicing for Life’ Event 1: The Power of Vulnerability

Just wanted to send out a recap for any of y’all who weren’t able to attend the event on Friday.
We started out with a check-in about messiness and what in our lives left us feeling vulnerable. We followed that up with Brene Brown’s TED talk “The Power of Vulnerability”. After watching the video, here are some questions we discussed:
What is the difference between insecurity and vulnerability?
 
What are some practical ways to acknowledge and practice vulnerability?
 
How is vulnerability gendered?
 
Some important takeaways included the idea that vulnerability is a daily practice and that by being vulnerable first, we make space for others to practice vulnerability. Thanks to everyone who came, and if you couldn’t make it, consider watching the TED talk anyway!
Please come through for our next event next Friday, 2/10 at 4 PM for a discussion about resilience.
If you have any questions, concerns or feedback surrounding this series of events, please email Lucas at blawrenc@stanford.edu.

Femtastic Fridays: Week 3

Happy Friday! We hope you’re all taking time to take care of yourselves. We at the WCC are committed to serving the Stanford community as a place to process, to learn, to develop skills, and to take action toward a more equitable and just world. This space is your space, and we are here to be in community with one another.

What’s New in the WCC

Come out to the WCC on Sunday nights for

Feminist Discussion Nights

9 – 10:30pm

Women’s Community Center

Hume Writing Tutors

Tuesdays and Wednesdays

7 – 9 pm

Women’s Community Center

Feminist Narratives Podcast!

The Feminist Narratives podcast seeks to amplify, share, learn, and educate listeners about stories of feminist resistance and innovation through the podcast medium.

Our inaugural interview with artist A-lan Holt focuses on the importance of healing practices and creation during these troubling times.

WCC Event Recap

The WCC hosted its Grad Winter Welcome event on Wednesday, January 25th. It was a lovely afternoon of finger painting as the graduate students took some time to decompress after completing the first few weeks of the quarter.

Upcoming Events

Microagressions: Empowerment for the Career World

The WCC is happy to co-sponsor this workshop with El Centro Chicano y Latino. It will focus on solutions to the experience of microagressions in an academic or professional setting. It has been planned with graduate students in mind, but all students are welcome to join us.

Women in Tech + Social Impact

Wondering how to combine your passions for tech with social justice? Come hear from three women who are making waves at the intersection of tech and social justice and hear their insights on constructing a fulfilling career path during this panel discussion!

Friday, February 3, 2017

12:45 pm – 1:45 pm

at the Women’s Community Center, 1st Floor, Firetruck House

LUNCH WILL BE PROVIDED! 🙂

Interesting Reads and Other News

It is estimated that over three million people marched at the Women’s Marches worldwide last Saturday in response to Trump’s inauguration. Take a look at this inspiring piece by Black Lives Matter leader and writer Alicia Garza on directions for moving forward.

If you’re looking for something to do over the weekend, Fun Home, based on the New York Times Best Seller graphic memoir by Alison Bechdel, is playing at the Curran Theatre in SF now until February 19th.

Femtastic Fridays: Week 2

Today’s Femtastic Friday coincides with the final day of the Obama administration and the inauguration of Donald Trump.  It comes shortly after this Monday, when we celebrated the life and legacy of Martin Luther King Jr. 

As Dr. King famously said, “The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice.” President Obama reflected on this profound statement in his farewell letter, stating “And when the arc of progress seems slow, remember: America is not the project of any one person. The single most powerful word in our democracy is the word ‘We.’ ‘We the People.’ ‘We shall overcome.’ ”

No matter your views on today’s political climate, these words serve as a reminder that you are not alone. Whatever your feelings are on this momentous occasion, know that you are not the only one feeling them. No matter what you are fighting for, you are not fighting single-handedly. 

If you are looking for a reassurance of this togetherness, please join us at the WCC as we hold space to be in community with one another.

What’s new at the WCC:

Feminist Narratives Podcast! 

The Feminist Narratives podcast seeks to amplify, share, learn, and educate listeners about stories of feminist resistance and innovation through the podcast medium. 

Our inaugural interview with artist A-lan Holt focusing on the importance of healing practices and creation during these troubling times.

We’ll be playing it in the WCC’s Self Care Corner today at 4pm!

Feminist Discussion Nights

Sundays at 9-10:30pm

Women’s Community Center

Come by for some stimulating discussion, tea, and snacks!

Coordination for Bay Area Women’s Marches

Stanford students are going to be coordinating rides up to various marches for the weekend. Check out the public Facebook link here

Marches are being held across the country to unify and empower everyone who stands for human rights, civil liberties, and social justice for all. Stand together in solidarity for the protection of our rights, our safety, our health, and our families — recognizing that our vibrant and diverse communities are the strength of our country.

Oakland – Meet at Oakland’s Madison Park (9th and Madison) at 10:00 am, with the march culminating at a12:30 pm rally at Oscar Grant/Frank Ogawa Plaza (14th and Broadway, downtown) with speakers, art and music. More info

San Francisco – Rally with speakers, arts and music from 3:00 – 5:00 pm at Civic Center Plaza. Then join a 5:00 pm candlelight march down Market St. to Justin Herman Plaza. More info

San Jose – Meet at San Jose City Hall at 10:00 am, with an 11:00 am march to Cesar Chavez Plaza where there will be a rally with speakers and music. More info

WCC Event Recap:

Women’s March Safety Meeting 

On Wednesday, the DGen Office sponsored an event to provide anyone participating in activist marches this weekend with the information to do so safely and responsibly. To learn more, view the notes from the meeting in the attached document below. 

Feminist News:

Hundreds of thousands of women will be marching in solidarity this weekend. You can learn more here

We applaud the significant work President Obama has done while in office to advance gender equity. Check out his best feminist quotes (https://www.bustle.com/p/the-best-barack-obama-feminist-quotes-during-his-time-in-office-26257) and this writer’s thoughts on what it meant to have a feminist president (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/our-feminist-president-barack-obama_us_58755eeae4b092a6cae3a393)

If you’re looking for something else to do this weekend, check out the film Hidden Figures, which tells the true story of three pioneering African American women whose calculations for NASA were integral to several historic missions, including John Glenn’s successful orbit of earth. Full review here. 

https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2017/01/hidden-figures-review/512252/

A Note from the WCC Directors from Election Day: 

“Dear WCC community,

We see you. We love you. We are here for you. You matter.

Please take care of yourselves. Please take care of each other.

If you can’t stop by, we invite you to remember these easy self-care practices:

1. Breathe. Inhale for five counts through the nose, exhale for five counts through the mouth. Repeat.

2. Drink a glass of water.

3. Take a shower.

4. Stretch for 30 seconds, or more.

5. Take a walk to your favorite spot on campus (lake lag? cactus garden?). Leave your phone at home or on do not disturb and don’t check it til you’re back.

Now, more than ever, we must do what we can to sustain ourselves and each other. We are here for you.

Faith & Marta”

WCC Community: We stand with you. You matter, and your voice matters.